Sowing and Reaping

When one allows negative thoughts and attitudes toward other people to attach themselves to his or her soul, they, like weeds in a garden start to sprout. In short order they root and start to take over. They soon have a mind of their own. The infestation manifests itself usually in the form of negative speech, or as we have seen it's other forms, rolling of the eyes, disapproving eyes and the like, which are forms of nonverbal negative speech.

Rabbi Abraham Twerski speaks very seriously about our thoughts.
Contemplating sin is more serious than the sin itself (Yoma 29a).

"Although actions generally have much greater impact than thoughts, thoughts may have a more serious effect in several areas.

The distance that our hands can reach is quite limited. The ears can hear from a much greater distance, and the reach of the eye is much farther yet. Thought, however, is virtually limitless in its reach. We can think of objects millions of light years away, and so we have a much greater selection of improper thoughts than of improper actions.

Thought also lacks the restraints that can deter actions. One may refrain from an improper act for fear of punishment or because of social disapproval, but the privacy of thought places it beyond these restraints.

Furthermore, thoughts create attitudes and mindsets. An improper action creates a certain amount of damage, but an improper mindset can create a multitude of improper actions. Finally, an improper mindset can numb our conscience and render us less sensitive to the effects of our actions. We therefore do not feel the guilt that would otherwise come from doing an improper act.

We may not be able to avoid the occurrence of improper impulses, but we should promptly reject them and not permit them to dwell in our mind".

So it is with our speech beloved, in this weeks parsha M'tsora HaShem in His loving discipline teaches us a profound lesson, if we will only listen. Listen and silent have the same letters. We can't listen if we are not silent.
Shabbat Shalom Elisheva